In my life there have been many times where my personal feelings toward a certain thing have affected the relationships that I have had with people. In one case in particular it was very hard to make the decision that I had made. Right now my parents are going through a divorce and about a year ago I was talking to my dad about what would happen after we moved out of the house. I did not want to be moving out with my mom because of some problems she had and the rocky relationship that we shared, so I told my dad that I was going to live with him and my brother because I got along with both of them and it would be a much more stable environment to live in. Although, much to my surprise my mom came up to me asking where I wanted to live, not with who but which city I wanted to live with her. I was shocked at the accusation and when I told her I wasn’t going to live with her she cried and begged me to and even my brother thought I should live with her because he thought that she would go into a downward spiral if I did not. I made the hard decision not to live with her, for the first time in my life I can drive home and not sit in the car for a minute to prepare myself for what would happen when I open the door, and now my relationship with my mom is better than it has ever been.
It sounds like your mother really cares about you. Making the decision you made brought both of you together and better than ever before. Even though your relationship with your mother was not that great, you became a bigger person when you thought of her needs over yours. That is very admirable in a person and distinguishes a teenager from an adult. I can relate to your situation because I myself was in that same exact position with my family as well just last year. Although I wanted to live with my father, I stayed with my mother because she needed me more than my father needed me at the time. I’m glad to have read about a situation like my own. =]
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